Category Archives: (03) March 2014

Week 13 – Cultivate Graciousness!

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“And you know, when you’ve experienced grace and you feel like you’ve been forgive, you’re a lot more forgiving of other people.You’re a lot more gracious to others” – Rick Warren

Many years ago, the company I worked for provided me with the opportunity to attend an incredible leadership course. During the course, one of the participants asked the instructor how to deal with negative or poor leaders above you. The workshop leader said, (And I apologize for the swear word—this is a direct quote) “There is an old saying. The higher the monkey climbs up the tree, the more his ass shows. You have a choice. You can point and laugh at the asses of the monkeys ahead of you, or you can realize that the monkeys behind you can see your ass. Always be gracious with the monkeys ahead of you in the hopes that the monkeys behind you will be gracious with you.”

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Week 12 – Celebrate the Small Stuff–Often!

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Celebrate what you want to see more of.”  -Tom Peters

You may have heard the expression, “What we focus on grows”. Where we put our attention, is what we usually get more of. Two of the primary things that make the unconscious mind encode, or imprint, and actually create neuro-pathways in the brain (that means hard-wiring) are repetition and strong emotions.

When we celebrate our successes, even small ones, with gusto and enthusiasm, we focus attention on success, and create the strong emotions and repetition needed to imprint the unconscious with the command that we want more things to celebrate.

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Week 11 – Appearances DO Matter: The Eight Appearance Principles

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“Attractiveness is not necessary for success, but appearance IS .” ― Max Simon


When I was teaching career transition at Bow Valley College, one of the sayings we would emphasize to the students was: “If you look like you belong in the room, then you only have to convince people to listen to what you have to say. However, if you don’t look like you belong in the room, you have to first convince people that you do belong in the room, and then convince them to listen to what you have to say.”

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Looking like you belong in the room saves a lot of time and energy!

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This might seem overly simplistic for a success blog, (and I am by no means perfect) but I am constantly amazed when I go to networking events how many people look , as one of my colourful friends would say, “slapped together with duct-tape and a glue gun”.

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While, as Max Simon says above, attractiveness is not necessary for success, appearance is. Our appearance is a reflection of our self-care.  Our appearance conveys CRUCIAL information. It conveys what we think about ourselves. It conveys how much we value ourselves and what we think we are worth.  And that translates into what OTHERS think of us and what others think we are worth. Let’s face it. Humans DO judge a book by its cover.

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Which office would you prefer to do business with? Photos is from www.asimpleplanconsulting.com

Which office would you prefer to do business with? Photos is from http://www.asimpleplanconsulting.com

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Week 10 – Success Principle #17 – Ask

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“We are afraid to ask not because we are afraid of the answer, but because we are afraid of the feeling of rejection.” ― Anna R.

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Several years ago, I was attending one of Jack Canfield’s workshops on success. Jack Canfield is the co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and a wonderful book on success titled, The Success Principles. At that time, I was the coordinator and lead instructor for the College Success Program at Bow Valley College in Calgary. I was also completing my Master’s degree in Leadership and Education.

As part of my Master’s, I had to complete a thesis. Somehow, I got the idea in my head that I wanted to complete my thesis in transformational leadership and work with the Transformational Leadership Council (TLC). TLC is an organization the Jack Canfield started because he wanted to spend time with like-minded people. You may have seen many of the members of the TLC in the hit movie The Secret.

I attended Jack’s one-day success workshop because I was determined to “corner” Jack at the workshop and ask him how I might complete my thesis with the TLC. Or, at least, that was the theory. All morning long, I chickened-out.  I was too afraid to ask. Read the rest of this entry

Week 9 –Doing Time: Letting go of the Myth of Overnight Success

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My dad told me, ‘It takes fifteen years to be an overnight success’, and it took me seventeen and a half years.”     –Adrien Brody (actor)

A few weeks ago, I was having one of those moments. You know the type. The type of moment where you are whining about the fact that you have been working so hard for so long and it feels like running through mud.  Yeah.  I’m not proud. What was interesting was that, within a three day span, I heard or read three different people (one each day) talking about the myth of the overnight success. It was a great wake up call. Success takes time—and you can’t fast-track it (despite what many people will try to tell you).

One of my favorite stories is about Thomas Edison. It is alleged that it took him 10,000 attempts to make the light bulb. During the entire time, Edison never felt he failed. He felt he found 9,999 to NOT make a light bulb, and one way to make a light bulb. Success is like that. It takes many attempts. And, only those who stick with it through the set-backs reach the finished line. (This great, short video by Miguel Joey Aviles captures the essence).

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