“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Spencer West was born with a disease in his legs that resulted in both his legs being amputated just below the pelvis. His parents were told Spencer would never sit up by himself or be a contributing member of society.
Over his life, Spencer was told a lot of “wouldn’ts”, “couldn’ts”, and “not possibles”. Fortunately, neither Spencer, nor his parents, paid attention to the limitations other people put on Spencer. They approached life from a place of discovering for themselves what Spencer could do.
In June 2012, Spencer West, together with his two best friends, climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro in Africa. Spencer did over 80% of the climb on his hands. (Let’s face it, there are lots of people with legs who never climb to the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro.)
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“No one can go to the highest level and remain a generalist.” – John C. Maxwell
Despite what you may have heard, there actually IS a time and place to say, “I can’t.” The truth is, it is not actually possible to do everything. As soon as we choose one thing, we give up something else. For example, if I wear my red dress, I can’t wear the blue one at the same time. I can’t be at the grocery store and the book store at the same time. If I’m writing my next blog article, I can’t be doing something fun at the same time….Oh, wait, that last example doesn’t work. Writing my blog is TOTALLY fun!! I can’t be on Facebook and writing my article at the same time. OK, that works.
The point is, life often forces us to make a choice. What matters is that in the process of choosing, we choose what will take us to where we want to go. “Can’t” can sometimes play a role in success!
Below are the 5 “Can’ts” successful people adopt. Read the rest of this entry
“Those who say life is knocking them down and giving them a tough time are usually the first to beat themselves up. Be on your own side.” ― Rasheed Ogunlaru
I bet the title REALLY got your attention! In a recent offering of my “Your Best Year Yet” Workshop, my friend and colleague, Betsi, shared with our group that she constantly guards against what she calls “Betsi’s Five F’s”. These five F’s usually go hand-in-hand with self –criticism. The five F’s demonstrate where we are beating ourselves up, and always show us where we are “fighting” against life (rather than living in the flow of Life—Flow is an F of a different kind! )
Successful people have very low levels of self-reproach. They learn from challenges and mistakes, forgive themselves (another F) and move on. They don’t waste their precious energy and resources on beating themselves up.
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“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.” – Shunryu Suzuki
The human mind is amazing. It is set up for speed and efficiency. This is so we can recognize and respond to danger quickly. However, one of the problems with our biological derivative for fast processing, is that in efforts to create speed, our mind will often seek out patterns and create generalizations. In the process of doing this, the mind often leaps to conclusions about the nature of something. Now, this has many advantages. It makes it much easier and faster to process the 2 million bits of information per second that our five senses receive. However, it causes an equally large challenge. Once the mind has locked into a pattern, (for example: it swims, it has feathers, it quacks, it lays eggs, therefore it must be a duck), the mind “dismisses” the pattern as known. At that point, we actually stop looking, exploring, and seeking understanding. Once we “KNOW” something, once the dismissal happens, there is little room for learning. (for example: It might be a goose, swan, or even a heron). Read the rest of this entry